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"She wants to be the mother to those two children. They're
her children. She should be allowed to raise them." Jeff Schroeder
There is a great deal of research regarding adoption, much of which is considered controversial. Few know the reality of the $1.4 billion adoption business.
 Needy Parent Adoptions
It is no longer about finding homes for a
homeless child, but about finding babies
for childless couples.
The US government funds the promotion of this practice. Imagine the reaction to studies exposing how adoptee's are over-represented in prison populations and mental health care.
What would the adoption industry do if mothers knew the repercussions of signing a consent for even an open adoption. There is no turning back. Sometimes adoption is necessary, but when it's not, it's child trafficking.
Some sixty percent of Americans are personally
affected by adoption... Reform in adoption laws, therefore,
will have wide-ranging impact... children
who have been needlessly placed in adoptive homes are suffering.
Prior to 1950, adoption in the United States was a relatively rare occurrence, principally because social workers, the clergy, and state legislatures viewed the preservation of the biological family unit as a preeminent social goal... it is now estimated that more than one million children in the United States live in adoptive homes...
The lot of a birth mother who surrenders her child to adoption is a psychologically brutal one. The surrendering birth mother will likely experience incredible lifelong pain and guilt.
"...How many child relinquishments have resulted from something other than a conscious, voluntary decision? The answer is deeply disturbing. For by delving extensively into the matter, it is possible to compile a substantial body of evidence identifying the troubling influence traditionally exerted upon child relinquishments by such forces as punishment, coercion, shamings, biased counseling, legal disenfranchisement of parents from their offspring, and numerous other forms of manipulations and pressure.
As the available data is assembled, one very unpleasant conclusion eventually stands out:
that the reigning myth of American adoption
has been that of the voluntary relinquishment
of children by their [natural] parents for
placement in new families."
[p.41-42 Adoption in America:Coming
of Age, Hal Aigner (Paradigm Press,1992) Larkspur,California]
Jane Rowe 1966
L. Anne Babb from the North American Council on Adoptable Children (NACAC), expresses concern over the motives and parenting skills in those choosing to adopt after facing infertility:
"The adoption decree gives many of us something that science, technology, and God didn't give us: "all the rights, duties, and other legal consequences of the natural relation of parent and child." Now we enjoy the consequences of being naturally related. Which is why we adoptive parents go around telling everyone how inappropriate it is to use the words "natural mother" and "natural father."
By implication, that language makes us unnatural. And wrong-headed adoptive parents don't want any of the contrived aspects of their relationships with their adopted children pointed out to them….
A 1989 study about the perceptions of parenting after infertility found that infertility is a life crisis of such major importance that it can and often does cause subsequent parenting problems and disruptions in family-child relationships and development...
The study found that half the biological parents were conscientious and secure parents, compared with only 20 percent of infertile adoptive parents... Half of the infertility-treated families, but none of the fertile families, reported problems in bonding with their children... The influence of that type of adoptive parent is destructive to the adopted child growing up, and the influence continues to be destructive on a small scale and a large one."
"Adoptive parents are deprived people. Almost all of them have experienced the pain of infertility or inability to bear a live child. They have gone through much disappointment, waiting and uncertainty, all experiences which tend to reduce people’s confidence and self-esteem. When they first acquire a baby their natural instinct is to salve their wounded feelings by denying any difference between the two kinds of parenthood, yet they also have to live with the fear of losing the child up till the time of legal adoption."
For adoptive couples, adoption is wonderful.
For the natural mothers and families of
adoptee's, adoptee's themselves and their
progeny,
adoption is profoundly painful.
Promoting Adoption - Is the U.S. Promoting Pain?
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